Suicide is a very serious and sensitive topic. Depression is very real and sometimes for some people, suicide seems like the only option they have left. Or the only decision worth making at the time. I am writing this post not to talk about suicide itself, but to emotionally validate the people who experience suicidal ideations or who have attempted suicide.
The point is, please do not judge or shame people for experiencing suicidal ideations or for trying to commit suicide. There is a way to help someone process these feelings and overcoming them without making them feel even worse about themselves. The opposite of condoning is not shaming or verbally attacking someone. Suicidal ideations feed off of shame and secrecy. The last thing any support should want to do is make someone feel like they have to hide even more, like they are a burden, or like they are inherently flawed/ evil for thinking such thoughts.
Individuals dealing with suicidal thoughts or urges need support and care, not judgment. It is not your roll to condemn anyone else for their actions. Whether you believe suicide is amoral or selfish or anything else, it is not your place to put those judgments or values on somebody else.
Again, I am not advocating suicide or advocating ignoring suicidal urges or behaviors. I just want people to understand that the hate and shame surrounding suicide only keeps people suffering in silence. Suicide is not a result of a moral shortcoming. It is the result of psychological trauma/ distress and a perceived lack of other viable options. So please, in honor of everyone who has, does, and will suffer with this burden, try to extend compassion and understanding their way and assist them in finding professional help.
I'm a bi female undergraduate student majoring in Psychology, with minors in Women and Gender Studies and African American Studies. I am passionate about issues of domestic violence and sexual assault, and intend to get my masters in social work in order to serve those populations.